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Alan Alda & Wife of 65 Years Have Been ‘Inseparable’ since Eating Rum Cake off the Floor Together

Alan Alda and Arlene Weiss were at a dinner party when the hostess’s rum cake suddenly fell from the top of the fridge to the kitchen floor. They were the only ones who tried eating it with their spoons, which led to a beautiful, decade-long relationship.

Alan Alda studied theatre and improvisation at Fordham University when he met his wife, Arelene Weiss. She studied music at New York City’s Hunter College, and he saw her play Mozart on the clarinet at an apartment party in college.

A couple of weeks later, they were both invited by a mutual friend to a dinner party at the same apartment. They were sitting at opposite ends of the table when a rum cake placed on the top of the fridge fell due to the shaking of the refrigerator.

Alan Alda at the "Sylvia" opening night held at Cort Theatre on October 27, 2015 | Photo: Getty ImagesAlan Alda at the “Sylvia” opening night held at Cort Theatre on October 27, 2015 | Photo: Getty Images

Alda and Weiss were the only ones who tried eating the cake off the floor, and from that moment on, they became inseparable. Alda was also drawn to Weiss when she heard her laugh at his joke.

Afterward, the New York natives walked through 6 inches of snow on the central park, but they were too busy paying attention to one another to care. They then walked around in circles and shared cakes.

Their Marriage and Career
After their adorable dinner encounter, Alda and Weiss started seeing each other before eventually tying the knot a year later, on March 15, 1957. At the time of their marriage, the lovebirds were still trying to make something of their careers.

On March 12, 1933, Weiss was born in the Bronx, New York, was pursuing her career as a musician, playing the clarinet for the Houston Symphony Orchestra under conductor Leopold Stokowski.

Alda, on his part, did not land his first significant television role till 1958, when he guest-starred as Carlyle Thompson III on “The Phil Silvers Show.” Alda embraced the stage and started performing in various stage plays like “The Owl and the Pussycat” between 1964 and 1965.

He also starred in the broadway 1966 production of “The Apple Tree.” His performance in “The Apple Tree” saw him nominated for his first Tony Award as Best Actor in a Musical.

Meanwhile, Weiss made a career switch from music to photography after studying with renowned New York photographers Lou Bernstein and Morton Shapiro. She also exhibited several major one-person shows for Nikon House and the Mark Humphrey Gallery in New York.

Her photographs also appeared in Vogue, People Magazine, The Saturday Evening Post, and Life Magazine. In 1972, Alda rose to fame when cast for the T.V. show “M.A.S.H.” His performance in the series saw him nominated for 21 Emmy Awards; he won five.

He further starred in Hollywood hits, including “The Seduction of Joe Tynan” alongside Meryl Streep and “Woody Allen’s Crimes.” Weiss decided to invest her efforts into children’s books.

From the 1990s, she authored 15 children’s books, including “Lulu’s Piano Lesson” and “Morning Glory Monday.” She also provided her own photography as illustrations in many of her books. The couple is parents to three daughters, Eve, Elizabeth, and Beatrice. They are also grandparents to eight grandchildren.

Arlene Weiss’s Support for Her Husband
A couple of days before their 63rd wedding anniversary, Alan Alda revealed his wife, Weiss, taught him how to read the newspaper and be a better thinker.

Alan Alda attends the premiere of "Art" in New York City on March 1, 1998 | Photo: Getty ImagesAlan Alda attends the premiere of “Art” in New York City on March 1, 1998 | Photo: Getty Images

She also was very supportive and held Alda to his values. The mother of three also never asked him to get a corporate job during the early years of their marriage when they were still struggling with their careers.

Alda praised her for being the soul of his soul before stating that he would not have been as successful as he is without her. Weiss would encourage him whenever he left the house for work.

On her thoughts about why their marriage lasted as long as it did, Weiss revealed the secret is a short memory. She explained that no relationship is as close as a marriage that does not go through a rough time.

During these challenging times when couples are yelling at each other, it is important to remember that they are yelling at someone they love.

Their Children
Alan Alda and Arlene Weiss are parents to three daughters; Eve Alda, Elizabeth Alda, and Beatrice Alda. Their eldest, Eve Alda, was born on December 18, 1958.

Unlike her parents, Eve decided to stay out of the spotlight, opting for a more traditional life. She studied psychology at Connecticut College and currently lives in Winchester, Massachusetts.

She once posted on Facebook about her father’s choice to reveal he has Parkinson’s disease. She praised her father for continuing with his acting career despite the diagnosis.

Their second-born, Elizabeth Alda, was born on August 20, 1960. She followed in her father’s footsteps making her acting debut alongside him in the 1981 movie “The Four Seasons.”

Elizabeth also appeared in 1986’s “Night of the Creeps.” After a short period in Hollywood, she traded acting for a career in teaching special education.

Beatrice Alda is the last born of the couple. She was born on August 10, 1961. She also followed in her father Alda’s footsteps, appearing alongside him and elder sister in “The Four Seasons.”

She followed that up with appearances in “A New Life” and “Men of Respect.” Beatrice made her directorial debut with the documentary “Out Late.” She is the proud owner of the production company “Forever Films Studios” and a mum to four adorable children.

Alan and Arlene’s Life Now
The couple are now in their 90s, but they’re still as in love as the first time they met, they even still laugh together. Alan often posts pictures of his wife on Instagram to show her off.

One of the photos he posted was of Arlene posing with a bowl of food. There was no caption accompanying the post, but Arlene’s smile said it all in the sweet snap. However, he acknowledged that it wasn’t always easy and said no relationship as close as marriage would come without problems.

Alan also shared a photo of seven potatoes with candles in them and said that Arlene had turned them into a menorah for the couple to enjoy over their festive season.

He also once shared a tweet in which he mentioned that every time he leaves the house on an important task, his wife tells him how great he will be and said it does wonderful things for his confidence.

Alan Alda (C) and guests attend the 25th Annual Screen Actors Guild Awards at The Shrine Auditorium on January 27, 2019 in Los Angeles, California | Source: Getty Images Alan Alda (C) and guests attend the 25th Annual Screen Actors Guild Awards at The Shrine Auditorium on January 27, 2019 in Los Angeles, California | Source: Getty Images

Arlene and Alan are parents of three and grandparents of eight. Alan mentioned that he loves to laugh with his grandchildren, claiming it’s the best medicine. He also loves to spoil his grandchildren. He said:

“I don’t think of it as spoiling. They know we love them. I think you can’t express too much how you care for someone. It doesn’t spoil them.”

He has also said how proud he is of his grandchildren for everything they’ve achieved at their young ages. He said they all followed their own paths and are all doing well.

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